Zero Tolerance Is Not The Answer

The zero tolerance, black-and white policy of NO ENABLING often backfires and leaves the loved one worse off than before. If the drinker gets fired because the spouse refuses to call in sick for him/her then the family can often wind up with no source of income, on welfare, or homeless. On the other hand simply giving someone money to go out and buy heroin is not usually the best of ideas. Rather than adopting all-or-none, black-and-white policies, spouses need to exercise judgment and treat each situation on a case-by-case basis, deciding which actions will decrease over all harm and which will increase it.

HARM LESS – an Alanon Alternative

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One Response to “Zero Tolerance Is Not The Answer”

  1. Cassi Says:

    The all or nothing approach is not effective in all cases. The wife in that situation would be in a difficult position. What is she supposed to do?
    I just found out about Harm Less and I’m very happy to have found it.

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